Fear, the way I see it…
The emotion that almost dictates every walk of our lives! It isn’t easy to handle. It isn’t very good, they say. But if you take a closer look with a positive eye… it helps quite often! Atleeast, you don’t have to feel inferior about having fears.
Let’s take this closer look with honesty. It is the fear of failure that pushes us to do the extra we need to succeed. It is the fear of loneliness that makes us get into a relationship. And its the fear of commitment that makes us choose to be all alone. It is the fear of pain that makes us cautious. Fear of mockery that makes us act normal. Fear of isolation that makes us fit in. Fear of being bad makes us good. Fear of god that makes us not sin.
If we sincerely question ourselves, we sure will know how much role fear might have played for us to get where we are today and how much fear we have in ourselves to be what we are today. Fear is an integral part of life. Labelling someone or ourselves a ‘coward‘ or mocking at someone’s cowardice doesn’t help anybody! A coward dies everyday might be true, may be it is the fear that kills a lot of elements in us and that amounts to dying little by little every day. But then surprisingly, it defines us finally.. removing all the unnecessary extra rock that’s in us for good or bad, shaping us up into the sculpture we are, leaving us with what we have.And im not ashamed of it.
It is impossible to eliminate this emotion that’s in everything. But if we are not afraid to accept the fact that sometimes if we are not afraid, we might be a better sculpture, we might actually get what we really want and we might be exemplary to future generations that have to accomplish so much. May be we can regulate the way our fears shape us or define us. May be we can’t eliminate the fears completely but we can regulate to what extent they can affect us and how. For this, we have to address the fears that are getting in the way of us being what we want to be. We have to accept them and address them. Life is all about choices. Sometimes we might choose succumbing to fear but sometimes we want to cross the bridge of fear to reach the opposite side. Either way do not be ashamed of it. Do not be afraid of it.
We need to accept us for what we are. Only then we will realise that we are worthy of being accepted by others and thereby worthy of their affection. Remember, you are worthy of being loved and respected. And the only price you need to pay for that happening is loving yourself. Tell yourself that being afraid is normal and the normalcy varies from person to person and that everybody is afraid of something. Tell yourself that there is no shame in admitting your fears or working on them. And tel yourself that if you need help about them, it’s never bad or belittling to seek help. Take the help you need and get over them whenever you find them a hindrance to your well-being. Dont be afraid of being judged by your fears and what you want to do with them. If there is one fear you got to cross, it is the fear of being afraid of being judged by the so-called abnormalcy of the fears. The world on the other side is sure easier. Go there and be less hard on yourself. Take this article as your first step to cross your bridge and wish you a happy journey through all the bridges you cross thereafter. And wish you a happier world every time you reach a new place on the other side of a bridge. When you choose not to cross some bridges, wish you all the peace as you embrace this ironic emotion which sculptures you meticulously into what you are going to be. Remember to love yourself for more and for less.
courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. – Mark Twain
in response to promt, ‘cowardice’